As heterogeneous as it may sound, all of us humans do eventaully do one thing: we look for our own interests first. I activley believe that this should be the way to go. We should always go about our interests. I wonder why people call such people as selfish or ‘matlabi’. I think human nature is selfish. Under rare cases is when a human actually gives more value to other things than herself or himself, and that too out of their own interest. Such as a mother ready to die for her child. And that too is the mother’s interest: she prefers her child’s life over her own death, so she still remains selfish.

What basically happens here is the notion of value that gets to work. We would make great or even the greatest of sacrifices for times when we give value to something. We should never assume that we should be kind to every human being on the planet at the extent of giving up our life for them. A good example is that of a soldier, who can easily lay down his life for the safety of the borders of the country. Heck I ain’t talking about soldiers who get corrupted by lights and royal stays.

But still, I wanna make a point that humans are objective oriented by default and by design. We have objectives and they get attached to our lives through the gate of the heart. Our heart decides the level of sacrifice we need to make for that person or thing. For example, when I meet a new person, I like that person, I would like to be of his use, I’d love to be some one who would be in his top list when it comes to getting things done. I would put extra effort just to make sure that particular person is happy with me. But once I find something in that same person which is not according to what I think is cool, I’d begin to shallow my depth of lovingness for that person. Had I travelled along the path of businessmen, I would have kept things under balance: “give enough and take enough” to use a silly and insulting, but actually practical phrase. This way, I would not feel disgusted about the fact that the other guy hurt me or the other person should have thought about the special things I did for him. A businessman thinks this way: ok i got enough profit from this person and he got enough profit from me, without either of us running into a desire of vengeance, since we never really lost too much; we lost enough and we gained enough.

We should not and i repeat NOT discourage this. This is normal and has to be observed and accepted. We have to think of any relationship in the form of a business deal. When you make a business deal, you measure the amount of benefit and the amount of loss a particular partner might give you. The same goes with everything else in life. The only difference is, business has “cash” as the  unit of profit while most other partnerships have “happiness” or “peace” (you can take ‘peace’ as grams and ‘happiness’ as kilograms as the unit of profit.

Expecting a business partner to sing and dance exactly like yourself is unacceptable and impractical. We really need to figure this fact out: All in this world are here for an objective. People without objective are not people but jails for their own souls. So leaving those jails beside and just talking about people, I would say that you just have to measure things up. If i think person X is an excellent programmer but his jokes are ridiculously silly, and at that very same time the person X thinks Kami is a dumb programmer but he can talk well with even people like person X himself, we would be in for a beautifully rewarding compromise: he codes, i talk, WE earn! In the process I would have to digest person X’s jokes and person X will have to fix my bugs in Visual Studio or Netbeans or any other IDE we might be using. You see how it works don’t you? It all has to be in a balance. Law of usefulness to others is equally important but we need to set preferences when it comes to special partnerships. One thing to remember is that all of this process needs to be without things like lies, hatred or passion to pull legs and all will be fine.

I’ll stop my extremely rewarding lecture so you can have an easy time reading something more useful perhaps. I might be wrong but I think I do have a decent formula for a painless life without too many of regrets.